tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393996338560944889.post1244551297088320795..comments2024-03-02T02:26:00.928-05:00Comments on bleakonomy: On admitting ambivalence about special needs kidstetracontadigonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04604381739383227553noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393996338560944889.post-83399353223567852972010-02-10T10:12:50.824-05:002010-02-10T10:12:50.824-05:00What age are these children who should be taught a...What age are these children who should be taught about ambivalent feelings? Didn't we just go through a children-need-black-and-white a post or two ago? Teenagers, yes, but one doesn't usually speak of teens as children.<br /><br />My heart goes out to you, charo, and especially your child. I pray for the best for your family.Gadfly Johnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393996338560944889.post-34177725190344638482010-02-09T15:32:20.349-05:002010-02-09T15:32:20.349-05:00Squillo, I'm totally with you on the importanc...Squillo, I'm totally with you on the importance of teaching children ambivalent feelings.<br /><br />And charo, I'm sorry to hear that. I know how you feel. If it's any consolation, I have already been absolutely amazed at how effective early intervention can be.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09953173396955681485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393996338560944889.post-11955438938911228832010-02-09T14:31:06.400-05:002010-02-09T14:31:06.400-05:00I agree Elizabeth. My 18 month old is developmenta...I agree Elizabeth. My 18 month old is developmentally delayed (to what extent is still unclear) and our next visit will be to assess his needs. It is understandable to hope for the best and be disappointed when it doesn't come to pass.<br /><br />charoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393996338560944889.post-36010800231038405702010-02-09T13:55:32.057-05:002010-02-09T13:55:32.057-05:00I couldn't agree more, Elizabeth.
Moreover, t...I couldn't agree more, Elizabeth.<br /><br />Moreover, those taboo feelings of ambivalence aren't unique to mothers of special-needs kids. Plenty of people pregnant with babies expected to be "normal" feel the same way.<br /><br />I think we do children a disservice (whether they are typical or not) by denying all negative or ambivalent feelings about parenting because it denies an essential reality about both being a parent and being a child; it sends a message that uncertainty, fear, and sorrow are taboo feelings in loving relationships and, I think, ultimately sets a child up to be far more fearful of these natural emotions in himself or others than necessary. It tells them that certain feelings are off-limits, or too terrible to be spoken of.Squillohttp://confutata.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com